Written by Prabha Choubina, Photography by Anandaraj Rajakumar:
Getting back to work, after six years of break, was tough to say the least. It has only been a few weeks now…
When I considered going back to work, I had anticipated a lot of things – physical exhaustion, chaotic mornings, untidy home, hurried meal times, long drawn chores, temper tantrums, complex child-care arrangements, added costs of childcare etc. I had also anticipated overjoy at the prospect of getting a job in my chosen field (specially when the job market is not so cheerful!), new energy and enthusiasm.
Guess what, the tantrums, the chaos, the expenses and all the unfavourable bits came flooding but the joy, energy and drive were just not what I had thought it would be! As the days passed by, things settled a bit, of course with help from husband, friends and childminder. I wouldn’t say everything is smooth sailing now, but we’ll get there.
When I started work, it was a bag of mixed emotions. I don’t regret at all staying at home to raise my daughter. In fact I consider myself very lucky to have been able to do that. But at some point I really wanted something a bit more…
How one feels about any situation is very subjective. In my situation, I’m glad that there is a bit more structure to my day and slightly better utilization of my time (dare I add, my skills?!).
Whatever we choose to do – be a full-time mum or work, there are trade-offs. I guess, the so called ‘win-win situation’ is only a myth!